I have a kid, but all the reasons I was on the fence about having one in the first place came true, so definitely not having any more. That said, he is the coolest thing and I wouldn't change anything.
I don’t think I do. I stress myself out enough, the idea of trying to raise someone in a fucked up world is too much for me to process right now.
Gotcha.. I essentially posted the same thing twice. First sentence was me being realistic, second was me being crude haha.
I think adoption is a v responsible choice. Not that having one yourself is irresponsible but since adoption is such a difficult process, you end up really knowing if you want that for yourself and if you're ready and you also don't contribute to growing population issues
I go to back and forth, but usually lean towards no. My biggest motive to have a kid would be to have someone young give a shit about my existence and/or well-being when I'm old. And I realize that's pretty fucking selfish even if I still had every intention of being the best parent I could be. Also recently I was upstairs and my gf was downstairs on the couch scrolling through IG when a story of a loudly crying/whining baby came up. It lasted all of ten seconds or whatever but bugged the hell out of me. When it ended I felt a huge wave of relief followed by a thought of "omg what if that was just like, my life and I couldn't stop that by simply hitting a button?? Fuck" so yeah kids aren't looking too good for me as of now haha
And to answer the OP: no, because kids are garbage. Why would anyone do that to themselves? The "wanting someone to look after me when I'm old" angle doesn't appeal either 'cause I don't plan on living past 50 anyway.
Man if I don't live long enough to demand a senior discount at multiple places that clearly would never offer a senior discount then I'm gonna be pissed
I can’t wait to be a father and if I have two boys I already have names picked out but my ex wanted to adopt and that would have been fine I just want kids :))))))))))))
I actually just remembered one reason I'd love to have kids: the sheer selfish joy of giving them stupid names. I wanna name my son Marcus Jr. despite me not being named Marcus. Or Homer Jr. The kids could call him HoJu.
If I do have one, I'm going to adopt. I have too much health nonsense in my family (mental issues, cancers, heart/blood issues) that I wouldn't want to pass them down. I know everyone has something like that, but my family seems to have a pretty shitty combo. I would love to adopt a newborn (I. LOVE. BABIES.) and go from there, but I think I'd also be okay with a child. I don't think I'd want to do it on my own, but if I ever find a partner, that might be a nice thing to do in the future.
The only reason I would want my own biological kids would be so I get to name them, I love coming up with baby names, and what if the kid I decide to adopt had a mom who spelled Kelly or Carly with an I
I used to be very unsure, but then a few years ago my aunt who I'm really close with (she's closer in age to me than my mom and the rest of her siblings) had a baby. I love my baby cousin so much and spending time with him has definitely made me want to be a mom someday.