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Brendan Ekstrom Explains Why He Walked Off Stage Mid-Set

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  1. Melody Bot

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    Brendan Ekstrom of Circa Survive explained on Twitter while he stopped playing mid-set and walked off stage for a few minutes. He saw something in the audience he didn’t like. You can read his full post below.

    Quick note to those who were at the show last night. I’ve been doing this for 20 years and I’ve never walked of stage during a song before. For almost a whole song I watched a guy stand a row behind a girl flirting and then trying to kiss her. It was hard to tell what was really happening. At times she seemed ok with his advances but after the second time of watching her push his face and hands away and try to turn back to watch the show I asked the security guard to go check on them. He couldn’t see what I was pointing to and it was still happening I left the stage and walked straight for them, my mind an emotional blur. Security followed me.

    The man seemed dumbfounded when I showed up as if nothing was wrong. I don’t know what happened after. I went back to stage to finish the show. Security took it from there. I didn’t see them again after that. Maybe they were removed or just moved. Maybe they were in a relationship. Maybe they weren’t. Regardless what I saw from stage was disturbing to me and completely removed me from the mindset I need to be on stage. It wasn’t cute. It was alarming. I’m almost forty and flirting doesn’t look like that. Maybe It’s that I have a daughter or that I’m older.

    Maybe it’s that I watched this video not long before we played and I couldn’t shake it (video in tweet). I Really don’t know but it made me furious to watch a girl forcibly remove someone’s hands from her body multiple times. I still don’t feel great about how I handled this situation. I borderline blacked out in some weird rage mode. it makes me nervous to think about how I would handle situations like this in the future especially if it was with someone I knew or cared about especially if it is my daughter. I don’t really know what to say about it all. I’m sorry to my band for not communicating the situation better and leaving them standing on stage confused. And I’m sorry to fans who were equally confused and saw a bit of an unusual show.

  2. defmytones


    I respect the hell out of him doing this. Such a humble response, theres absolutely no need for him to apologize for anything. Far too many times the opposite occurs where people simply ignore and then we hear the horror stories afterwards. Bravo to him.
  3. carlosonthedrums

    Cooler than a polar bear's toenails Prestigious

    Yup, dude has absolutely nothing to apologize about at all. The show comes second, third, fourth and fifth when something like this is happening.
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  4. elemenohpe

    Irregular Prestigious

    That's a stand up thing to do.

    His explanation was a nice gesture for fans before the rumor mill started up.

    As others said, the apology was unnecessary. Any fans that feel like he owes them an apology needs to reevaluate their morals... not that there's been any of that.
  5. mattfreaksmeout

    Trusted Supporter

    Nothing but respect for this. Good for him.
  6. gbuffers


    I don't know of Brendan or listen to the band (on on my 'to listen' list) but just wanted to come on and say what a thoroughly decent guy. Much respect.

    Kind of silly perhaps but as I say I have been meaning to check them out for a while and this certainly encourages me to.
  7. Terry


    Atta boy!