I'm still not sure how I feel about the whole "reclaiming" issue. It makes sense to me, but I still don't know my feelings overall. At this point, it never phases me anymore to hear the n-word from African Americans, yet it's somewhat perplexing to me that it ever happened in the first place. Ironically, that's how the term "Christian" started too, in the original Greek. It was originally a slur, making fun of people by calling them "little christs."
Exactly. Like, even the songs where I swear are referring to things where I could not think of another way to say it and still retain the "power" of what I'm saying. And, I know it's sort of situational what some people even consider slurs. Like, I don't fault people for saying "retard" but if they do it enough I will mention what it means for me with my brother and generally they stop saying it (at least around me). A lot of people just don't want to think about what their words mean it seems though, and I think it is becoming increasingly important as time goes on.
Yeah, a backlash had to happen eventually. Living in the post-modern society where anything can mean anything to anyone, there had to come a point where the value of words would be stolen back. If we destroy the exact meanings of particular words, we'll lose possibly the most important aspect of what sociologically makes humans human.
I say this as nicely and respectfully as possible but is it because you've never had a term to "Take back"? For instance as a fat woman the use of the word fat, bitch, etc used to be extremely hurtful and detrimental. Being called a bitch was incredibly hurtful to me, and would take me a while to get over. Then I just let it empower me...now terms like fat bitch and slut take on the meaning that *I* want them to. Of course it still hurts a little when someone says something with a negative connotation, but not remotely as much as it used to.
No, you're fine. That's totally fair and a really good point. The only way I remotely relate is that I've been called gay and *** a lot throughout my life, but it was never anything for me to "take back" because I'm straight. I just fit perfectly into a bunch of those stupid gay guy stereotypes. I wonder if this post will get censored.
Also, I'm really sorry that you had to experience such cruelty and that you've ever been spoken to like that. It's good to hear you're finding ways to cope with it and empower yourself over such rude terms, but still.
thats really kind of you to say, thank you. Every time I get a called a bitch now I just respond in SNL fashion; 'bitches get stuff done'
I hope whatever album they make is good. With how this could very well be the last Brand New album, it wouldn't surprise me if they wanted to have songs spanning their whole career (this one representative of YFW), so I hope that's all it is and there's not a whole album like this.
I'm trying to decide if I would like the song if it wasn't written by brand new, not sure if I would..
I'm torn on this song. I like it, but it just feels kind of like a step backwards. Idk. Interesting to see what direction the rest of the album goes.
If it's placed in a record of very different songs I will like it, but nervous the whole record sounds like this
It's kind of like the piano player by the hotelier, I wouldn't want a whole record based on the sound of that song, but in context of goodness it's perfect