One thing I will say is that I'm sure a lot of these people in bands with abusers are in a tough situation. Abusers are going to go through every length possible to cover up what they're doing. They know it's wrong and even if they don't think it's wrong they know it's illegal. It's entirely believable to me that Dan wouldn't know that Kyle's dad was flirting with little girls. I mean, I live downstairs from my lifelong best friend and I barely know anything about his insanely happy marriage...I'm sure those with malicious intentions are going to do everything possible to cover up the abusive parts of their personal lives. Just something to think about before we all get the pitchforks out for every band member in bands that have abusers in them. For the good people in bands with shitty people this must be insanely difficult as well.