I was about to delete tinder because that girl never messaged me back but she messaged me today and I was like WOW. she said she got a new phone and forgot to download the app but we have been talking a bunch now so it’s nice.
My fiance is buried in student loan debt from college, and I'm, well, not. She feels bad that I pay for her a lot of the time, but I don't think anything of it. I keep telling her we're in this together and she knows that. When my money gets tight, that's when it actually sucks haha.
I more mean like has anyone been with someone whose upbringing/lifestyle was just on a totally different level. Like I’ve met some girls who I’ve found attractive but they grew up rich and don’t know what it’s like to struggle at all financially and I feel like there would be a big disconnect because of that
I definitely feel that. I feel like it would be hard to relate imo. My past partner was pretty privileged and it was a point of contention and his family wasn’t even “rich” just “comfortable”. My most recent partner/the one I’m still involved with is deff more on my level, I mean he lives in a trailer lol but he’s also had better paying jobs than me. But it’s nicer to relate more to him.
Not sure there is a right or wrong answer here. I know plenty of people who have married into (or...'relationshipped' into) families that are the complete opposite of their upbringing - whether financially, politically, demographically. Some work, some don't. I think there are a lot of other factors that make a relationship successful (or not) outside of that.
Me personally, I dated a girl for 5+ years whose family was beyond well-off. Her father owns a construction company and builds houses. They lived in a 4-story home. I remember being super intimidated at first to date her thinking that I couldn't live up to some sort of standards that I inconceivably assumed that she or her family set. It was never an issue once. She, and her family, were super laid back, and not pretentious or snobby or anything. Conversely, my wife and her family come from the total opposite background of me and my family. She grew up in a poor area, she went to a super small school (graduating class of 30 - mine was 800+) and just had a totally different upbringing than myself. Neither of those situations caused any problems or disconnect in either relationship.