Discussion in 'General Forum' started by dylan, May 12, 2019.
"21, divorced for two years" My town sure is something
how many kids?
Wow, that’s beautiful Mr Digi
I’m in a very toxic friendship and I can’t get out because I refuse to cut this person out of my life and this is the absolute worst.
why keep them around?
because she is a coworker and it’s hard to avoid her.
I guess I can understand some of the complication there, but still--reducing being around them might still be a good halfway step.
basically I had/have a crush on a coworker.(feelings are weird) I have never actually admitted it but I feel like she can tell.
we flirted(sometimes way aggressive) and just hung out and all that stuff. I then had people telling me she was manipulating me and just being very toxic for my mental health.(I’ve had like 5 people tell me this so maybe they are right.) yeah it’s gotten to a level where we argue one day and the next day are back to hanging and doing the same stuff like I mentioned before. It also seems like she is doing stuff directly to keep me wanting to talk to her and it’s really bad for my health but I can’t seem to quit because again coworkers and we work together a lot.
basically I tell @ComedownMachine all my problems with this girl and his advice is to get away and I am like no. I refuse.
He’ll come in here to confirm and call me an idiot.
me like 2 days ago: you should ghost her
you last night: so we spent the whole day together
it's a rare moment when they have good advice and you're ignoring it. oh buddy...
Least you're aware you're in a trainwreck of a friendship.
BLAME THE SUPERVISORS FOR PUTTING US TOGETHER
oh yeah I’m 100% aware but like I said I keep ignoring it and that’s bad for my health so I eventually need to learn.
no one is toxic to cobra kid jon on my watch
Well then you're fucking up, because someone already is.
GET IT TOGETHER CUPS FOR FUCK SAKE
he does it off site too
I deff know exactly how it feels to be in a situation of manipulation and toxicity and feeling like you can’t get out, @CobraKidJon so I’m genuinely sorry that you’re in that position. I also know from personal experience that all the people in the world telling you to get out won’t make it happen until you’re ready yourself. But it’s important for people to remind you that you always have options, some of which you might be intentionally not seeing because it’s ‘better’ to stay in the abuse (again, coming from a place of love & speaking from direct experience)
I do this sometimes when I answer her phone calls
Not sure if this is the right place for this, because I'm not sure if there's a "Talk about your Exes" thread lmao
But I found a flashdrive tonight in my "memory box" and I had no idea what was on it and so I plugged it in and I basically spent the last hour going through the history of me and my ex girlfriend's relationship via blurty/livejournal entries that she posted about me (or private entries on my own page since I gave her my password back then and she would write stuff into it just for me to see) that I completely forgot I had saved onto a word doc like years ago and put on this flashdrive.
Maybe it's because I just watched the Notebook earlier but definitely a lot of sappy feelings right now. It was a whirlwind hot and heavy teenage romance that lasted 2 years and burned out bright. It ended when she cheated on me (I had already forgiven her for previous transgressions that were less serious than fucking another dude), so it ended horribly and I was clinically depressed and I think I changed for the worse as a person after that, so that's the part I always kind of remember....so it was pretty wild to run through the happier (and some not so happy) times in our relationship that I don't remember as clearly anymore. It’s so melodramatic (I mean we were teenagers and they’re livejournal entries lmao) and cheesy but we really loved each other hard, the way teens in love for the first time do, and it’s just really weird to relive some of those moments and feelings again. Especially considering I’m a happily married man. I met my wife a couple years after this relationship so I was older and more “mature” when it came to love, and more careful about it after having my heart broken, so it’s funny to see the two different ways I’ve been in love and how different the relationships went.
anyway, what a weird fucking last 90 minutes it’s been lmao. I cringed at the parts where she had copy/pasted some of the corny stuff I would IM her or post on my away messages or in my livejournal updates. 17 year old me was not a poet. Also reading this I found myself wondering “what the hell happened that changed so fast?” and I immediately had to put a stop to that thought because the depression that followed our relationship had a lot to do with the whole wondering why nonsense. Hey, at least I found some song lyrics to songs I had completely forgot existed!
Thank you for coming to my TedTalk entitled “10+ year old flash drive”.
I vividly remember physically printing AIM chats in HS hahaha
SWIPE NIGHT EPISODE 2 BAYBEE