I really do hate dating apps because I feel like I do them all wrong because I never get any matches and then it takes a hit on my self esteem. and yet I keep going back smh.
okay this thing with you and James and Derek has officially gone too far, I am not a sinner but if I did get a bj and I ever told any of you I would want one of you to fly to New York and murder me
In a weird situation. Could use some advice. Or just people to vent to. I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years and love her so so much. And I don't think it's an exaggeration to say we're perfect for each other except for one thing. She's asexual and while she doesn't dislike sex when it does happen, it's not something she really ever thinks about or initiates, which I guess is called "gray ace". She told me recently she only ever does it to make me happy(which kind of makes me feel gross about everytime we have done it). We're going through a pretty long dry spell right now and as much as I feel like a brat and a shithead for admitting it, it has been effecting me. Like, I know she loves me and wants me to be happy but the broken part of my brain just makes me feel unwanted and it's kind of been triggering my depression the last few months as dumb as that sounds. I don't want to end this because she's literally my best friend that I've ever had and while our relationship isn't necessarily sexual it is definitely romantic. I know nothing is wrong with her for being this way, it's just our one incompatibility. We've discussed it a few times and she has suggested we try an open relationship/non-monogamy, and I've even been supportive of her exploring her bi-romanticism in the past so it's not totally foreign to us, but the few times it's gotten to the point of people showing intrest in me she's gotten cold feet. I want her to feel comfortable with whatever happens so at that point I always give it up. I just feel kind of stuck in limbo. I really don't know what to do. "Sucking it up" doesn't feel like a permanent solution. Sorry to bring down the mood.
I don’t know if it’ll be any help but I actually am in love with someone who is asexual also. She is busy tonight so I’ll see if I can get her thoughts on this tomorrow.
I'm pretty sure I'm ace so I'll see if i I can help but unfortunately I don't think I can, I've never been in a relationship so I can't answer how to reckon that incompatibility even though it's on my mind when I think about being in one, but I understand your frustration but also realize which you seem to do too that she can't control her lack of sex drive