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Discussion in 'General Forum' started by dylan, May 12, 2019.

  1. Colby Searcy

    Is admired for his impeccable (food) tastes Prestigious

    This situation just seems so untenable with one party really not wanting to work through things yet. Sometimes leaving is the only option (albeit hopefully the last resort)
     
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  2. LessThanTrevor

    Vocals & Guitar for Less Than A Sea Prestigious

    Completely the last resort. I don't want my son coming from a broken family, but I also know staying won't make it better if it's this toxic.
     
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  3. Colby Searcy

    Is admired for his impeccable (food) tastes Prestigious

    Absolutely and I'm right there with you. From the sounds of it I feel like you're definitely taking appropriate steps to try and resolve the situation in a civil and helpful manner before ultimately leaving. There's only so much you are able to take before enough is enough. I truly hope the best in the situation and hope that you can get through it.
     
  4. LessThanTrevor

    Vocals & Guitar for Less Than A Sea Prestigious

    It's been honestly two years of being completely treated like this. I'm surprised I haven't cracked and left. I've just been trying to keep the peace and fix things. Nothing is working though.
     
  5. LessThanTrevor

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    I thought about setting up a hidden camera to see what happens when I'm not home too. My son is obsessed with me and doesn't really care if his mother is around or not. If we spend the whole day together while his mother is at work he doesn't run to her when she gets home. Just follows me around. I'm curious how she plays with him and engages with him.
     
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  7. colorlesscliche

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    In your current situation, I would not recommend that. That'll only lead to her accusing you of more things. Tell her you want to put one up for when he goes to bed so you can see his sleeping habits, or something.
     
  8. colorlesscliche

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    Trevor, I don't want to side track, so apologies because what you are going through is rough.

    But that said, like a few weeks ago I totally went out of my comfort zone, messaged someone on Hinge, we went back and forth but it was only like a message or two a day, for about a week. Anyways, I ended it buy saying something along the lines of, if you'd like to get a drink or ice cream, text me, and gave her my number. This was the first time I gave a girl my number since my divorce, and the first time I did it probably since like 2010! Anyways, she never did so I was like alright, so hard feelings, I probbably would do the same.

    But she just texted me! :embarrassed:

    I definitely have avoidant personality disorder (something I talked about at my therapist after the divorce), and my gut reaction is just to completely ignore it because god damn the thought of actually meeting up is terrifying to me. Why is this shit so difficult? I'm 33, this shouldn't be stressful!
     
  9. Kiana

    Anyway, don't be a stranger Prestigious

    Yeah it doesn't sound healthy I think I'm just extra sympathetic to what women may be experiencing after childbirth because I couldn't even fathom the idea of it not feeling like my body, feeling like I'm no longer attractive, the painful recovery time, the post partum, like again not saying it's necessarily the partners fault. I think by that point it's deeper than the words a partner can offer but I also think it's something that cis men won't ever "get" so my heart goes out in that sense.
     
  10. ncarrab

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    To be honest with you, if you're going to the extreme of setting up a hidden camera, you need to just split. That's obviously signaling that ALL trust is lost between the two of you and once you're at that point, I'm not sure what either person can do to gain it back. Sounds like you guys may be entering a dangerous situation if you continue as is. Something has to change quickly before something really bad happens.
     
  11. ncarrab

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    For what it's worth, I think it's completely normal for couples to go through a major shift during pregnancy/after birth. I know my wife and I did. There are major adjustments that need to happen to continue on with a healthy relationship. Things will never be status quo again once children are brought into the relationship. It's a rocky road to travel through. My wife and I had our first when we were still dating at the time (unplanned, of course) and it was hell for a while...but, that's normal. And like @Kiana said, men will never truly understand what the woman is going through with a literal person growing inside of them and their hormones changing rapidly and the feeling of never being the same again. I honestly couldn't imagine. My mom had to pull me aside several times to try and get that through my head of what my wife was going through.

    That said, if things aren't improving after a few years, then it's time to try and take a different course of action if you guys are both still miserable.
     
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  12. colorlesscliche

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    Update: I'm grinning so hard. I've been laughing since we started texting. She sent me a picture of her Post Malone Halloween costume, and I asked if the mustache was real or makeup, long story short;

    [​IMG]
     
  13. LessThanTrevor

    Vocals & Guitar for Less Than A Sea Prestigious

    This is a side note to everyone that has chimed in on my multiple post. The feedback really has helped me and I'm taking time to really evaluate my situation. I'm going to be talking to my partner and hope that we can find some common ground. I'm also going to ask her if she truly wants to be with me and if not then we need to figure some stuff out. Before we get to that point I'm going to bring up a doctors visit as well as going to therapy. With her best friend moving here soon, and apparently staying with us for an unknown amount of time without us having discussed it first, I fear that we'll end up just splitting and them trying to make me move out and keep me from my son. That's my biggest fear with everything. I can handle the relationship ending, but if anyone tries to keep my kid away from me I'm going to lose my mind. He's literally my best friend.
     
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  14. St. Nate

    We were just talkin' bout the Jesus. Prestigious

    I have baby fever

    so many baby
     
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  15. dadbolt

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    you should text your neighbor and ask if they want one
     
  16. St. Nate

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    Doesn't look likely.

    56% of people I know are saying No.
     
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  17. dadbolt

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    coward
     
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  18. St. Nate

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  19. waking season

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    I have a handful of matches on Hinge that seem really cool and I have absolutely no idea how to message them good times
     
  20. St. Nate

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    thats okay we gota handful of dating coaches on here who will help you.
     
  21. Mr. Serotonin

    I'm still staring down the sun Prestigious

    Yeah there’s prolly a button that resembles an envelope with an arrow or somethin’
     
  22. LuigiPeppercorn

    Better at Smash Bros. than OldJersey Prestigious

    Hey y’all I went on a really great date tonight and she’s not from London
     
  23. thenewmatthewperry

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    So my man jokingly mentioned his ring size tonight... help... haha
     
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  24. St. Nate

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