2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 39

Wow James are you a sinner

 

RT

 

4 separate friends

that said, my tinder game rn is solid

 

Is this like an American Pie pact?

 

No, that was a suicide pact.

 

Damn that’s hella random. Do y’all know each other? That’s just so bizarre to me haha

 

I'm 28 and i've thought about it and decided I'm never doing it

 

2 of the couples know each other and i play softball with them every weekend. neither knew they were proposing that weekend

 

I’d like to get married one day but not any time soon

 

You think your friends being in the dating pool was hurting your tinder game?

 

nah, it was a separate point

 

There’s gotta be a connection. I’ll follow up in a coupla weeks after my investigation.

 

I'm 27 and I'm pretty sure everyone just assumes I'm a lesbian because I'm single and unmarried. Literally every time a coworker or someone asks if I'm seeing anyone and I say I'm not, they always follow up with asking if I'm gay.

 

The Seinfeld line of “I’m neat, single and thin” has pretty much always applied to me and thus, like that episode where people think Jerry is gay (not that there’s anything wrong with that) people assume the same of me (I think, no one has ever asked or commented although when I go on dates or have a FWB every wants to know every detail about the girl and is endlessly fascinated but maybe that’s how it always goes).

Everyone in my department is female and they’ll rag on their husbands and men in general in the office and then look at me as if I just appeared from thin air and apologize and / or say, “but we’re not including you in what we mean!!! You’re not like a normal guy!!!!” And I’m all “gee thanks?”.

It’s very hard to explain why I adore being single vs in a relationship. There’s about a trillion small, mostly superficial and selfish reasons, but they are reasons, and to me they greatly outnumber any positives of a committed relationship in my book. But I get why other people have them, enjoy them and / or need them.

 

I’m like, 100% certain had I got married at 22/23 I would have gotten divorced by now. My ex ended our long-term relationship (5 years) when we were 23 because she was hellbent on getting married. I couldn’t fathom getting married at that point of my life. She ultimately ended things when she realized I had no interest in getting married (we fought about it time and time and time again for the last 12-18 months). It blew my mind that someone that young needed to get married. Legit did not understand the mindset at all.

After the break-up I had some of the best years of my life that I wouldn’t have been able to experience had I got married and started a family that young.

I fully believe people need to experiment in their 20s...with jobs, travel, friendships, relationships, activities, etc. If you don’t, how can you really know what you ultimately want/enjoy in life?

If people think they are ready that young, more power to them, but it definitely wasn’t for me at such a young age.

 

My sister got married at 21 and she believes the microwave is the devil. She refuses to have one in her house.

At first I thought this wacky idea came from living in hippy dippy California, but remembering she got married at 21 made me realize the crazy was always there for the microwave business our family now knows of.

 

I know someone who got married and had a kid young but sometimes says she wishes she'd have waited. They're still together but it looks tough sometimes as they get older and she's maturing and coming into the mother role and taking on household responsibilities and he's like... Stunted and plays video games all day and can be v immature and petty. I think it can work out for sure, but I also think the gap between 20s and 30s is so large.

I'd have a hard time committing rn because idk what I wanna do and my life is in transition. I guess u can say that's always the case so u just have to take the risk, but I can't imagine rn

 

it's insane hearing my coworkers talk about their husbands like "he doesn't know how to cook or do laundry and if I need him to pick up dry cleaning or something it takes 45 minutes to explain" or whatever and I'm like wtf

 

I see so many women infantilize their husbands and it's sad they've been socialized to think it's normal. so many sitcoms and media further that trope too.

 

I'm going to hide in my hole now

 

Yeah a couple friends of mine got married before they ever lived on their own before and that's slightly terrifying.

 

seems to be working out okay for you and your wife, I just can't imagine that

 

Believe me the decision wasn't taken lightly and I got lucky that I found someone that's willing to put up with me long term. I absolutely don't fault anybody for waiting, it's a huge life changing decision you better make sure it's completely right

 

Idk. Millions around the globe seem to change their mind pretty quickly on that decision and carry on with their life like their short-lived marriage was a weekend cold they got over lol.

I think that’s part of the problem with why so many people get married, there’s a (hypothetical) easy out in divorce / annulment. I assume there’s a cost but I’m sure most don’t give a shit if they want out lol. So you get married, it sucks, get divorced, back to whatever you were doing before! Boom! Now if you couldn’t get divorced or if it was a harder process, I wonder if that would cut down the number of marriages (by at least a small amount)

 

You're absolutely right, but imo it shouldn't be that way and I hate that it is. I feel like this shouldn't be the attitude to take for something like marriage.