2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 33

Definitely have the talk sooner than later. Sorry bud.

 

I'm trying to think to myself... do I actually want them? Will I down the road? And i'm just stuck... i don't know? I don't think I do. I never ever have in the past but now I'm thinking about this as hard as I ever have.

 

Totally understandable. The having children conversation is a very important conversation to have in any relationship especially if it's a serious one and one that you see lasting(potentially forever)

 

Well, if she had never brought this up would you have easily answered that you don’t want them?

 

Do you have nieces or nephews? If so, hang out with them! See how they make you feel.

 

I dunno. I absolutely adore my nieces and nephews. Genuinely some of my favorite people in the world. They do not make me want to have kids haha. I love being able to pass off responsibility to their parents when they start acting like little shits

 

All of that is completely reasonable. Surely she's thinking similarly as well. Maybe she'll change her mind, or at least realize that you really don't want them and be alright.

Have y'all talked about that previously?

 

Yeah I still hate other people's kids

 

This is my point. If he does the same, and the feeling is 'they do not make me want to have kids', you clearly aren't ready.


When my nephew was born, like 8 months in, I was changed and warmed up completely to the idea of having a kid.

 

Yes. I'd say 95% of me thinks I don't want them. 5% of me thinks that I might in a few years.

My brother just had a baby and I love him a ton, but I don't know if I want to be a father.

Exactly!

At the start of our relationship she told me she didn't want children. No talk of it really for 3 years until now.

 

maybe I need to spend more time with my nephew.

 

If it makes you feel better my wife and I both never wanted kids and we have two.

 

Be sure to tell them that

 

so at some point you decided that you wanted them? after you were married?

 

Nope...we had our first child well before we got married. Obviously not planned. We eventually got married and I guess we liked the first one enough to have a second one.

 

Kids? In this economy?

 

@Ken tell her Sterling is your only baby

you just have to straight up tell her, it's definitely something that can change so I don't blame her, at some point I could see myself as a dad but now I don't think so

 

I'd feel better about this situation if she had just said "i'm open to the idea or thinking about it" but to be so strongly pro-children makes me feel conflicted, because I don't know if I'll ever come around. Then what? We get married only to get divorced? I guess there's the chance I do come around. Ugh.

 

oh, she knows how I feel. I just don't know what to do about it.

 

For me I feel like it was definitely more of a natural/minimal progression towards finally having kids

 

I feel like honesty goes a long way tbh

 

We're still trying to really determine if we like the first one

 

adopt me @Ken

 

why the hell would I do that