I have a major crush on a gal in my community choir. We’ve hung out a few times, even a couple times 1:1, and I really enjoy spending time with her. Trouble is, I’m finding her very difficult to read. I can tell she enjoys my company but I’m not sure if she’s romantically interested. The plan is to work up the courage to ask her out after our first choir rehearsal of the season on Wednesday. Why is asking out someone you know in person so much harder than on the apps?! The stakes feel much higher, even though logically I know I have nothing to lose. If she just feels platonically about me, I’ll move on romantically and continue our friendship. But really hoping there’s a chance she’d want to go out with me.
Well the good news is I mustered up the courage to ask her out, which I think really needed to happen. Bad news is she (politely) declined. I’m lowkey crushed but it’s at least good to know, and we both want to still be friends.
gone on 3 dates with a girl on Hinge. she’s the sweetest soul and conversation flows so naturally!!! we have tentative plans for valentine’s day and we might be going to see a musical the week after, but nothing set in stone yet. we’ve been taking it slow but i’m really hopeful about it!
Sorry to hear that, but hope you’re taking it in stride. Even though it sucks, you don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with you romantically. And at the very least, you took your shot. Better knowing than not.
slow in the sense that the most we’ve done is hold hands and a single hug! i think, at the very least, offering to see someone on valentine’s day is common courtesy if you’ve gone a few dates. there’s an obvious elephant in the room, so we gotta address it! it’ll most likely be a casual day time thing, so more playful about the holiday than anything
i’m now three and a half months into my relationship and let me tell you it is really something. i don’t know how to describe it. but it’s really serious at this point and my hopes are very high for a long term future
just left her house after seeing each other for close to seven days in a row now and i’m actually legitimately head over heels for this woman
THIS IS THE STUFF WE LOVE TO SEE POSTED ON 2 DATING 2 RELATIONSHIPS THREAD II !!!! very happy to hear :)
made a new friend recently and I am struggling with the intense emotions I am having towards him. I'm finding myself in a new weird mode where I am intensely romantically attracted to him but not sexually. And bro told me he "doesn't think he's attracted to men but questioning his identity and looking for friends" so naturally all of our interactions are painful and bit awkward so I switched to more direct communication over text which he's kinda mirrored so NATURALLY we're planning to hang out and watch a movie. Feels like an absolute powder keg waiting to explode.
Hey yall Welp, it's been a roughhhhh 5 years of dating using mostly apps, I could write a novel of bad date stories (i'm sure a lot of us can) BUT There was a girl I went out with a couple times in the fall, the only girl I have gone on more than 1 date with basically lmao, and she had a lot going on so we paused things but we reconnected last month and finally spent time over the weekend. She came over and it just went about as well as it possibly could. No idea where it is going to go, but the conversation is great, the mutual attraction is there and very strong. She also matches my energy which is TOUGH, I have a a lot of unique energy lol. Just sharing this because it only happened because I kept jumping back on the horse and giving things another go. I have learned a lot about myself in my dating experience, i've especially learned to not take things personally and not assume things. So if anyone is hopeless out there, keep plugging along, there are good, kind people out there you just need to swim through the vast amount of shit out there.
My wife is very unhappy and has been for some time and I would do anything in my power to fix it, but I genuinely don't think it's possible. We split up and got back together a few times before getting married, and it typically had something to do with me either not doing enough, not noticing enough, or requiring too much instruction to tackle adult responsibilities, which I totally own up to. The thing is, each time it's happened, I have worked hard to make improvements and confront that stuff in therapy. And now, it seems even with those changes and improvements made, she has this self-described "ball of resentment" that she doesn't know how to let go of. And I am willing to do whatever I need to for our marriage, whether it's completely fair to me or not, but I've been against the ropes for so long that I'm starting to wonder if she doesn't care about fixing things nearly as much as I do. It hurts to even be in the same room as your partner when you don't know if they even like or want you around. After an emotional evening a couple of nights ago, I let her know today very simply that I don't know if it's possible to reach the standard she's set in her mind, but that I'm willing to give her everything that I can within reason -- continuing to work hard, be a better listener, make better decisions, whatever it may be -- but only if she can tell me that she really wants and will fight for this. I asked her to take some time and reflect. It breaks my heart, but I don't think I can be the only person putting emotion into this relationship anymore. I would do anything to fix and support my family, but at some point, I have to start protecting myself.
this is, almost to a tee, exactly what i went through. it ended in a divorce, and it sucked. no way around it. sorry youre going through it, i cant really give advice nor would i necessarily want to because everyone is different, but, i will say that i become much happier once i allowed myself to accept what was inevitably going to happen, and began to work on just healing myself.
Our situation was also similar and I can very much relate to the "It hurts to even be in the same room as your partner when you don't know if they even like or want you around." part. It really sucks and I really for feel ya, dude. We're currently separated and are working through the dissolution paperwork. It was really hard to lose something that I put so much love and work into, but a massive weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I'm in a much better place than I was during the last year+ that we lived together.
i have been having such a great time with my girlfriend UGH it’s like god damn i did not know things could be this good after so many years unhappy to discover this level of happiness is unreal to me. i’m a very lucky guy. we get along very well we have very similar world views and interests that overlap but are distinct enough that we are able to be like individual people. very happy
I got into a quasi romantic entanglement with my direct neighbour that lasted from my birthday (mid-september) to valentine's day. as a non-apps-user who exercises alone one's options are generally limited.
Unfortunately I have to echo what Sean said. This describes almost exactly what I went through. It was hell for a long time. I'm in a better place now than I was this time last year or even six months ago. I hope things work out for the best for you.
Welp yall, think i’m gonna have a girlfriend real soon. Matched with this girl over 6 months ago on Hinge, we talked cats and then added each other on IG and kinda moved on. We noticed we had a couple mutual friends though. We would interact here and there but I never tried to go out with her because I thought she was out of my league lmao. A few weeks ago I posted a serious IG story that resonated with her, we sent one voice message to each other and instantly noticed the insane chemistry potential. It was a spark right there. We’ve been out a few times, each time exceedingly more enjoyable than the last, we’ve discovered a ton of compatibility ( including in bed) long story short, its like soulmate shit, and as someone who's been incredibly single the past 5 years and working so hard on becoming a better me, it is blowing me the fuck away. She is a happy, independent, hard working adult and in my dating experience I learned a top priority thing i’m looking for is just an ADULTTTTTT, someone mature, and that is Ally. We are very cognizant of pacing and not completly sprinting into things so we are a committed to not seeing each other every single night lol,its just healthy adult shit and its the biggest breath of fresh air i’ve ever gotten. Crazy