2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 223

it’s fuckin rough out here man. trying to emotionally disconnect from my previous relationship while simultaneously finding the online dating game exhausting and not even remotely worth my time. there has to be a better way, and from what I hear from my women friends, many of them would much rather have a man approach them IRL than use an app. Problem is, where tf am I supposed to be approaching these women?? My coworker suggested shitty dive bars in the part of the city I live in but my days off are Monday and Tuesday and the last time I went to one of those places on a Monday night there was hardly any sort of crowd to speak of, let alone one teeming with single women. Sucks working every single weekend and being the age where I’m too tired after work to actually go do anything.

 

Im right there with you. On almost every point you hit. In fact on Wednesday I did something I haven’t done in over 20 years and approached a woman and tried to start a conversation with the intention of getting to know them. Me and my brother had some drinks at a shitty dive bar and there was this group of friends that were like the only people there really. Nobody seemed to be “together” and it was a mix of women and men, some non heterosexual. It was outdoor and hot af and one of them had a water gun. So this girl turns around and pretends like she’s gonna shoot me so I say go ahead. We had a laugh of it. I didn’t want to approach her group but at the end of the night she was the only there. So I figured I’d try to introduce myself and the first thing out of her mouth was “well that’s a lame way to start a conversation” with such attitude. And my brother offered to buy her a shot and she was like “what am I 16?” And just started arguing. So I just excused myself from the situation and said to myself well maybe I am not ready for this.

 

I’m so sick of people I meet on dating apps telling me they’re not ready for a relationship. At least this time it happened before we actually met up. Like I have it on my profile that I’m looking for something serious, how do I keep ending up in this position

 

Me and my bf have a months long ongoing argument where he swears we've seen Spanish Love Songs live and I'm 100% sure we haven't and it's like an objective fact but here we are

 

wife and I drank a bottle of wine on our patio the other weekend just chillin and listenin to music, first time in forever we just disassociated from everything and caught up with each other while not being distracted. highly recommend

 

I’ve had an influx of people hit me with the first like on hinge this week, which absolutely never happens. By influx I mean like, 3 but still. Way more than usual. And I’m actually pretty interested in two of them. Are things turning around? Will I be back in a few days to lament about driving 300 miles to sleep with my ex? Stay tuned for the next installment of the absolute train wreck that is my personal life

 

It could be worse, dude. Hope you find somebody. My ex killed herself last year, then me and her friend trauma bonded and started sleeping together. I fell in love with her then she left me for another friend. They broke up at the beginning of the year then she tried to get back with me. Now she's dating another dude I know. I moved to Richmond a few months ago and know zero people and have never used a dating site and being a transient train rider for most of my life, I don't think I'm ever gonna find another partner.

 

I found my ex girlfriend’s reddit account. Yes I went looking no I’m not proud of it. I had a feeling about something and I was right. I was being cheated on for the last six months of my relationship at least and lied to over and over again for the last three months it’s been “over.” I’m extremely distraught because she did this once before and I really wanted to believe it wouldn’t happen again.

 

Hate when I check my phone and get a notification I matched with a girl and she sent me a message, then I go on tinder and see it's not there and she probably unmatched because I didn't respond fast enough.

I am not glued to my phone most of the day. Sorry! Give me some time jeez.

 

People impulse swipe based on vibes without looking at profiles. That's my problem that I am trying to fix. I am looking for casual fun and I keep matching with people who are looking for a long term partner.

Also a lot of demisexual girls swipe right for me. Much respect to demis, I vibe with them pretty well, and they are mostly cool as hell, but that isn't really what I am looking for right now.

 

went on a second date last night and we spent a solid hour making out on my couch. hell yea

 

Decided to download apps again, after a 3 year relationship ended. I matched with someone, trying to make conversation, and is it normal for people to just respond and that's it? I'm like girl, ask me a question or something. Trying so hard to make it not sound like an interview, but sheesh. The previously mentioned relationship, we met on Bumble, so easy to talk to via text, was that just luck?

 

I’ve been in the apps since June for the first time in my life and it is INSANE how many people I match with who put absolutely no effort into the conversation whatsoever. You also get people who will talk and talk and talk with no intention of ever actually meeting. It’s weird on both ends to me

 

man what the fuck. this girl I met on hinge a few months ago and have become good friends with but absolutely nothing more than that commented on my instagram story tonight about wishing I wasn’t sick so she could come eat the pizza I ordered. this other girl I went on a couple dates with and have been really into and romantically connecting with saw it because apparently comments in your stories are public now? and she freaked out and completely called things off and told me to take care. im fucking floored and feel like I don’t even know what the fuck I could have done here to prevent this or if I even really did anything wrong??? like we aren’t exclusive and there is not anything going on beyond friendship with this other girl but she wouldn’t hear it. im so bummed out and sad. this felt like it was going places. and just like that it’s completely gone. the fuck do I even do. how do you navigate this dumb fucking era of dating

 

Man, I’m really sorry. That sounds like some bad trust issues on their part. Did they already block you on everything?

 

The wild thing is that I 100% get it because my previous girlfriend cheated on me twice. But no im not blocked or even unfollowed yet but I don’t know if being pushy and trying to convince her to give me a shot is the right move here. I really just don’t know what to do. Cut my losses and move on? I’ve been having such bad luck with these apps and this seemed like something real for once.

 

I would say give it a night for things to die down and then reach out and try to explain. If they are truly done then clearly they have issues with trust and that’s not a good way to start a relationship.

but also, I’m not the best at relationship advice. Just saying that that’s what I would
do.

 

Yeah I might reach out tomorrow. We’ll see. This is just not something I expected to happen tonight

 

I had no idea Instagram story comments are public? What the fuck?

 

Yeah that's crazy

 

That doesn't sound like there was anything you could have done. More like a shit happens type thing.

If you made it clear you were not exclusive off the bat and she was still upset you could be talking to other girls then that is definitely not on you.

 

Yeah that's wild - I need to look into that.

 

Messaging someone in response to their story is private but commenting on it is public. There’s 2 separate options

 

the plot thickens. I didn't know the second option was a thing