2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 216

My now fiancée matched with me on bumble because I had mewithoutYou on my profile lol.

now we exclusively listen to charli

 

Went ahead and paid for a month of Hinge+. We will see how this works for a month.

 

Good luck!

The months are WAY too expensive, but they do tend to work so.

 

Not to be ageist to the OP but this feels like a very immature late teens/early 20's way of looking at this. Developing romantic feeling within platonic friendships is incredibly common and normal. I am a demi-romantic person so I do not even feel romantic attraction towards anyone until I have developed a close friendship with them, so I have been in this scenario many times.

You learn from experience I think that the healthiest thing to do is just be open and acknowledge it as soon as you can. Letting it linger cause cause weirder issues/feelings with your friendship down the line. Chances are that yeah you will get rejected, but pushing it down is much worse. It's important for the crush haver to not feel entitled, accept rejection, and continue the friendship platonically if it doesn't work out; but it also important for the receiver of the crush to not judge or make their friend feel like they did something wrong or gaslight them into thinking they ruined the friendship just for being honest and transparent about their natural feelings like OP is doing here. If the other person expresses entitlement or won't move on in a healthy way then yeah then it is valid to feel that way, but just for them being honest about their feelings? Come on.

 

One of my red flags is when someone trauma dumps on me before we have gotten very close. Like I don't fault them for it, but it makes me feel uncomfortable that you feel comfortable sharing real dark personal stuff with me when I barely know you.

 

Thought I'd share my favorite dating advice show!

 

I am interested in your guy's take on this. This is the one call in on this show where most of the fans seem to siding with the caller and disagreeing with the advice they gave.

 

naw, they're right. he said he makes good money, there's no reason to make it this big of a deal. totally get it if it's like bleeding him dry but it doesn't sound like it is. part of being in a friend group!

 

Someone give me a tl;dr

 

Caller was upset that his girlfriend's best friend's boyfriend pays for his girlfriend's food and drinks while they go out when he isn't there because he feels like that makes him obligated to pay when he is in the same situation. His girlfriend is annoyed when he doesn't buy her friend food like the other boyfriend does for her. Basically "I am only paying my own girlfriend's shit, I won't pay for someone else's girlfriend"

Hosts make fun of him for refusing to be nice to women he isn't having sex with

 

I guess it depends on his financial situation? It might be a nice gesture, but he's definitely not obligated just because some other guy chooses to do it

 

I feel like finding someone isn’t in the cards for me. The guy that I had my eye on for years, someone who I thought was my “soulmate”, the only person I ever felt so drawn to (I cannot explain that feeling) and finally met and dated for nearly a year, broke my heart. It feels like a piece of me is missing. I guess it really was too good to be true. He wasn’t perfect by any means and different than what he portrayed himself to be. I never felt so comfortable with someone. It just sucks because I never felt so empty after a break up

 

Modern era of dating is rough as heck

 

Feel the need to write this down somewhere. No idea why.

Ex-girlfriend (long distance — dated a year and a half, broke up six months ago) told me last week she's met someone she feels strongly about. And I've never been more devastated about anything in my life.

 

Man, I almost wish I could go on a date and just have the worst time and have her tell me I suck or something. I’m so exhausted with going on dates, having a great time and just never hearing from them again, or getting that “friend vibes” text.

It’s nothing personal about any specific person, but damn, I just wish I could get some kind of constructive criticism or something. Like at this point it feels like it’s something I’m doing wrong but there’s no indicators that’s the case and I just have no clue what I need to do differently to find success. Idk, just feels like I’m banging my head against a concrete wall and I’m over it

 

too many people putting too much stock into first impressions or instant-anything. takes time to figure things, habits, quirks about others. lately people just want to be in too much of a hurry to find 'it' that they're blind to it.

 

I was chatting with someone on Bumble for a few days. Probably over 200 messages between the two of us. We planned to meet at a pizza shop tomorrow.

She messaged me while I was at work today, but I was pretty drained and just didn’t feel like having a conversation until I went home and made dinner. She messaged me again and about an hour later I was ready to sit down and chat.

She had unmatched me 30 minutes after the last message.

It be that way, I guess

 

I’m sorry to hear that - I’m not sure why she wouldn’t at least have waited until after the date if she had thought she was getting ghosted. You had plans the following day so the natural course of action from the person getting potentially ghosted would be to get to the day of the date and reach out to see if the plans were still on, then unmatch after the date time slot if there’s crickets

 

Any folks in a longer marriage here yet? Our 7th is coming up and I'm striking out on what to get in terms of a gift. We're doing a kid-less getaway so that'll be fun, but I like trying to get a gift from the "traditional" list if I can. 7th is either Copper or Wool. I'd like to try and do both if possible, but all the gift ideas for copper I'm finding are either lame or don't really work for my wife haha

 

Yall gonna smash David

 

13 years for me in October. We tend to not really get each other gifts though

 

This year will be our 10th, but our anniversary is a week after Xmas (NYE), so we always do something small for each other, but always go the traditional route. I think for 7, I bought my wife copper Moscow mule cups.

 

grant

 

I think that’s fine to ask since this is a relationship thread murph

 

oh do we talk about smashin' in here?