Posted in another thread already but I wanted to share with you folks as well. I’m so thankful for everyone’s support
I feel like this is such a classic dating app thing to have happen, but it’s bumming me out. Matched on Hinge with this cute woman, made some conversation, asked her out, and we made dinner plans for tomorrow. Got a text this morning saying that actually she’s not ready to be dating rn. Trying not to take it personally, it’s just disappointing.
Yeah the first meet up is always where people are more flaky. Feel like it's more about their anxiety, it's annoying but don't let it bother you. Like you said it's probably not personal. It's definitely happened to me a bunch, one time they legit just didn't show up when I was there lol
I have four more weeks left in Florida before I move back up to NJ and of course I match with a girl i'm hitting if off extremely well with. Going to hang out with her tomorrow, i'm not too nervous about it and that's just speaking from how well we have hit it off and how genuinely nice she seems. She's been in long term recovery like me which honestly says a lot because I know she has done work on herself, I have as well. She knows I am leaving and we both kind of see it as a no pressure type of situation but I just know i'm going to have a great time with her and then have to leave lol. 2 years in dating app hell in Florida and I finally find a sweet, fellow cat-lover.
So this got delayed, she was real unsure of seeing each other just because of the circumstances that i'm leaving soon, she was worried I would get mad that she cancelled yesterday but I completely understood and told her I'd just want to do something she was comfortable with, whenever that was. I meant it completely but I think it let her see i'm easy going and understanding. Idk. Anyways, since that we have developed an intense attraction that I haven't had with someone in a long long time. It has been a blast to talk and flirt/joke around. She is gone until next weekend, shes on Vaca with her family but when she comes back next weekend we are dead set on hanging out. Texts have been nonstop and that whole thing and it just makes me feel alive again, hah. We both are going to just roll with the punches, the chemistry is really strong so it would be a lifetime regret to not pursue it. It feels good, I have noted in here how I have been alone the past few years and I have just been waiting for a spark like his to happen.
I’m sure a lot of folks feel this way but I have never connected with my family (cousins, aunts, uncles, etc.) I have a lot of cousins and aunts/uncles and it was always so boring growing up and attending family get togethers because I never had anything in common with these people and they all seemed to have the same interests and personalities. In my early 20’s when I got my first “real job” it felt like some of that went away and family get together were less of an annoyance but over time that has not improved and just gone back to the way it used to be. Today we had a family get together and I made it maybe 35 minutes before I left without saying anything lol. I just… do not have anything in common with these people and it’s almost like they speak another language as I have no idea what makes their “jokes” funny (there’s no punchline I ever decipher) and neither party does any attempt at keeping a conversation going and we never know where to start so we just awkwardly stand there until someone walks away or walks up to us so the other one can walk away. Literally it’s either, “so, how’s work?” which fuck off I don’t want to ever talk about work, listening to them tell lame ass stories about their kids or they ask me, “so, you run marathons huh?” and then I say “yep” and they say “wow” and then that’s it. And if I try to explain or add more their eyes just glaze over. I even have an uncle who is a huge bike rider and has been for decades and yet I can’t even connect with him on an “enjoying working out” kind of level. One of those cliche ‘how did I end up in this family?’ Kind of thoughts when cousins almost a decade younger than me connect with cousins my age more than i do and when my step sisters connect with family better than I do. Used to only have to deal with these awkward occurrences for major holidays but over the next few years there are high school graduations and such that will add to the frequencies of these glorious times.
just thought I'd update everyone about my date last weekend. It was great. I had a blast and so did he (or so I thought). Needless to say, I haven't heard back from him since last Sunday Morning. I fucking give up on dating. I'm done. My 25 year old brother looked at me the other day and goes "I don't get your generation and this whole ghosting thing. It's so fucking childish" Yeah, not shit kid. Tell me about it. Like I'd rather someone tell me that they aren't feeling it than left to wonder if they are dead or something. The silence is triggering.
So saturday I will be seeing this girl I've been talking to nonstop, we are just trimming the fat and bullshit and i'm just gonna go to her place. We are both at the same level of infatuation lmao so that's rad. It's going to be a wild ride, I leave Florida on 9/1. I am positive the infatuation will be exponentially stronger when we see each other, and it's going to be painful to leave the state. The way I look at it is that I'd way rather see her, and form a real bond and just see where it takes us rather than not see her and spend the rest of my life playing the 'what if' game. She feels the same. We both don't want a LDR. Y'all know what that mean lmao.
Hey the only reason I appreciate it so much is from the consecutive years I didn't get shit from anyone hahaha your time will come.
I decided after thinking my day date last weekend and being totally ghosted after such a wonderful day....I'm done trying to date and connect with someone for the year. The Julie Dates 2022 season is officially over.
one of the (many) reasons my relationships fail so quickly is because i feel smothered almost instantly by people and waking up to "good morning!" texts messages has always made my skin crawl because now i'm just stuck in an endless text thread / "conversation" that goes nowhere and i just want it to end and be left alone again lmao it took me many, many, many years to realize the issue was ME and not the person sending the text, who i initially blamed internally because i figured they "weren't the right one" at the time because if they would have been, i would have enjoyed the text! but nope. i don't like that kind of text from anyone ever lol sorry to @JulieLynn for your ghosting fiasco and enjoy purposefully driving your heart off a cliff @oldjersey lol (i kid but also hope for the best even though you seem to know where this is headed)