2 Dating 2 Relationships Thread II: The Squeakquel NSFW • Page 180

Discussion in 'General Forum' started by dylan, May 12, 2019.

  1. Kiana

    Goddamn, man child Prestigious

    Ok more riveting developments. He thinks my thinking is too rigid and I think his is too rigid. He thinks of things as very factual, literal and black and white. I think more in theory and interpretation. I had him read some of the foreword of the newest edition of "this bridge called my back" (which is amazing btw) and he kept saying I was wrong because it's not what literally was written. And I'm like broseph that's how I interpret what they wrote. It's theory. Theory can be interpreted different ways. It's why it's theory.

    So maybe that's some of the problem. Hmm. I'm pretty sure every time I say "well it depends. It's more complex than that" he dies inside.


    Killing men slowly from the inside, one at a time
     
  2. marsupial jones

    if i don't like your avatar i don't like you

    Oof that is one way to kill a man lol

    that line - “it’s more complex than that” literally made me cringe. But I was thinking of it in terms of work projects because I hear everyone say that a lot, not in the context of what you’ve been posting, but just know that he’s, that phrase can kill people (the speed of it depends on how much someone has already heard it in their life lol)
     
  3. good praxis in the time of pandemic

    an inspiration
     
  4. Carmen SD

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    Every time I think I found someone, I either get ghosted out of know where (like the convo is going well and you respond, then ask a question and never hear from them again) or they do drugs. The majority where I live does drugs! I'm working on coming to terms that I'll be alone forever, but its so hard, because I know I'll eventually need someone by my side when I start taking a turn for the worst. I need to give up and stop wasting my time.

    edit: on a side note my on call job there is this guy that works in a different department that I happen to find really cute. It's strange because I feel shy around him (instead of awkward, I usually feel awkward around guys), and that hasn't happen since I was in like middle school. I don't know how old he is and I'm guessing he is no older than 23 or 24? I know nothing about him except he likes star wars.
     
  5. Iago Mar 26, 2020
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    Iago

    tourniquet patterns.

    I've been talking to this girl from Bumble every day for the past 5 days and we've been on 2+ hour long video calls every day since Monday and it's been the greatest thing ever. She kicks my butt at chess and Scrabble, she's a classically trained bassist, she skates, she paints, omg. She has this super strong independent aura about her but also she's super wholesome and sweet. I think she's genuinely one of the most attractive people, inside and out, that I've met and she always texts back first right after the call to say she had a great time, even when I'm moments away from saying the same thing!! I really hope this works out.
     
  6. marsupial jones

    if i don't like your avatar i don't like you

    lmao I was cleaning out a junk email folder and saw a very recent email from Match.com saying something like, “now is the perfect time to meet a stranger” and I’m like goddamn Match.com learn to read the fucking room.
     
  7. Taketimeandfind

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    I was wondering how it’s looking out there on the dating apps right now. Not that I have any reason to be on them being married. Just wondered how they are affected
     
  8. Iago

    tourniquet patterns.

    Super stoked about this exchange omg

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  9. Mrplum5089

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    Yeah I bet are ton of people are on them with this free time but planning a meetup (no one knows) how far out would be challenging.
     
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  10. Carmen SD

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    I don’t remember if I posted this here or in a support group. I did an “experiement” a while back. I used an “inactive” dating profile (no content) and changed my location/search to a completely different state and city, just to see if people suck in general or if it’s really my area . And let me tell you, it was like a whole different species of men. I hardly cringed as I was browsing, unlike my area. So when I say the dating pool in my area is bad, it -really- is that BAD. I can’t speak for other areas I didn’t search. A large part of me wants to give up, because I know it’s not worth wasting my time, and I just end up complaining. It’s hard to accept I’m equivalent to the item on the shelf no one wants even in a pandemic. No matter how hard I try to meet people, I’m never worth it. This is the cards I’ve been dealt. I have to live with it. Its the price of being real life ugly (that is a whole different topic/discussion for another thread dealing with my mental health issues) It’s very difficult beyond anyone’s understanding. Anyway I’ll just go away now. I just needed to get some feelings out.
     
  11. You think people are meeting on dating sites/apps and having zoom first dates?
     
  12. marsupial jones

    if i don't like your avatar i don't like you

    for hilarity sake, I hope so
     
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  13. cherrywaves

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    I had my first FaceTime date last night. Up until that point we had been texting a lot, and the call itself seemed to go well, but she needed to go after a little less than an hour and haven't really heard from her since. Have no clue what went wrong but it's not promising lol
     
  14. did you have a nice backdrop?
     
  15. cherrywaves

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    Haha no I was just lying in bed. It was kind of a last minute thing and I didn't plan anything specific but maybe I should have?
     
  16. Mr. Serotonin Apr 2, 2020
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    Mr. Serotonin

    I'm still staring down the sun Prestigious

    I woulda had massive mountains of Toilet Paper and stacks of gold as my background. Maybe even Tiger in the corner, who knows.
     
  17. At least a skyline dude, c'mon!!
     
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  18. cherrywaves

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    For whatever reason anytime I try to have a virtual background on zoom, it will turn me into the background and leave my wall/window untouched. I think that would be a pretty good bit hah
     
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  19. CobraKidJon

    Fun must be always. Prestigious

    my background is random Nickelodeon shows
     
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  20. being on facetime/skype for a first date sounds like a nightmare to me
     
  21. cherrywaves

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    yeah it is not my preferred method and it wasn't my idea haha. Idk I don't have a ton of ideas for how to navigate this during the pandemic
     
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  22. Mrplum5089

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    Idk how people do long distance, any tips?
     
  23. waking season

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    I did it for like 6 months and it wasn’t always easy but the biggest thing was having regular Skype dates. I think it’s helpful to change up what you’re doing on dates too, sometimes it’s good to just talk but you could also watch a movie together or cook and have dinner if that’s your thing. We were also together for a little before so I think that helped things a bit too since it wasn’t long distance from the outset.
     
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  24. ComedownMachine

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    my girlfriend and I did about 15 months of long distance and it was pretty difficult. we had a visit every now and then (longest gap was like 4 months) but what helped the most was 30 minutes to an hour of facetime every night

    having gone through that, I would absolutely never do long distance with someone I wasn’t already dating irl first haha
     
  25. waking season

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    Yeah it’s not something I’d do again unless there was an end date for distance or at least a plan that you’d be in the area eventually
     
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