Discussion in 'General Forum' started by dylan, May 12, 2019.
Date went well! I was weirdly nervous which I think she picked up on but it was a good time and we’re planning to hang out again next week.
Starting to feel the urge to go back on Hinge again. Haven't seen anyone since October and deleted all my dating profiles in September. Kinda wanna keep it going but shit gets lonely sometimes.
I’m a lurker in this thread and it always makes me think of how much easier things were back during MySpace. You post an edgy quiz bulletin, make some wall comments and bam. You got a girlfriend for a week lol
Mine did too! I was only somewhat nervous, and made a dumb comment about not knowing how to make a move, but we laughed and made out. It was fun! Of the year+ of dating apps and not being interested in a single person, it's nice to be excited about someone again. And oh my goodness, her voice. It's so calming. If this goes further, I cannot wait to go to sleep talking to her because her voice is .
I know leaving, I was overthinking everything I said and did, but she texted me when I got home and made it clear I did good.
So, win for me!
I honestly couldn't imagine going on a 'first date'
It's wild. My ex-wife and I dated in HS and kept in touch before reconnecting, so that never felt like a first date. This girl, we knew of each other and followed each other on IG for years (friends of friends), but it was the first time meeting so it had serious first date vibes. It's so much different in your 30's than in your early 20's.
Sounds nuts, haha. I guess what I mean is, out of all the girls I ever dated - even my wife - I've never really formally had a first date. Any relationship I've ever been in - or any girl I ever had a fling with or whatever - it all started out as a friendship or organically where we'd see each other out, hang out with friends or whatever. But I've never truly been on like an official first date with anyone. The closest thing I can recall is going out with a girl to a Karaoke night - which is FAR out of my comfort zone - but even then, that girl and I had hung out several times before in a larger, group setting.
I feel like if I ever had to go on a true first date (like first time meeting someone - or first time spending time with someone) i'd be an absolute MESS before, during and after.
Yeah man, it was something else and as an introvert, completely out of my comfort zone. But we talked for four hours and laughed, flirted, made out, so I'd say it went well. Excited to see where it goes.
This hits a little too close to home right now
30 people now and no matches at all
it just wants me to pay for it
Happy to hear it went well! It definitely helps to have that reinforcement. We were talking about places near where she lives and she said “we’ll have to go there next time!” which really calmed my nerves haha.
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This girl is so flirty I love it
Met his parents and it was ridic lol. He picked up pizzas per their request which we thought was for dinner (which they eat at 3pm) but then when we got there his parents had made a roast and they wanted to put the pizza hut pizzas in the freezer. He hadn't told them I was a vegetarian because he thought we were just eating the pizzas. His dad said "A vegetarian? Why?" And then talked about how he'd never met one in real life like we're rare unicorns lol. I had salad and his mom asked if I'd like ranch dressing or mayonnaise. MAYONNAISE ON A GARDEN SALAD. His mom talked about how badly white people wrinkle. His dad talked about how the earth has opened up and now supernatural creatures like witches are roaming the earth.
All in all it was amusing lol. He and I got into an argument of sorts on the drive back home which I think is going to be an ongoing discussion and possible dealbreaker tho idk idk
is there any chance his dad was fucking around with you in regards to the witches warlocks stuff? Seems like standard behavior for old white dads to do - embarrass their kids’ by saying wild things to their friends or significant others when first meeting them
if not, go back and please record the conversations and post
that dad is probably a dnd player I respect it
So my ex’s mom grew up hating salads because her mom used miracle whip on salads cause it was marketed that way back then. Wild that it happened beyond the Midwest lol
I’d break up over a 3pm mayo dinner for sure
Oh no he was totally serious. He seems a little eccentric. His mom is super cute and sweet but shes Catholic and as a former Catholic I can confidently say we believe in all sorts of nonsense lol
Guy is open to learning about feminism and women's studies but has a long way. Calls himself a feminist but in a simplistic "we should all be equal" way. I was trying to talk about power imbalances and he was listening and open minded but struggled with like.... Wider Societal and structural imbalances vs individual experiences. He said I was sexist against men and it's sad he's dating a misandrist. Best compliment I've ever gotten like what kind of catch am I
My previous partner and I broke up in August and today we would've made 4 years. Today's going to be rough.
Hope it goes by quickly, do something nice for yourself today
If it gives you any hope, Cait did a great job implementing feminist beliefs into my life. We had a few shouting matches over things but inevitably she was usually right. Okay she was always right. I also had this site to educate me, however.
My best advice and this may seem obvious but ease into it. I know you have a lot of passion behind it and that's fantastic, but to white dudes, you gotta twist it so you're just giving them considerations on topics rather than saying you need to believe this or fuck off.