Gave him his homemade MTG cards yesterday and he almost cried. Then I further asserted my dominance by pulling a power move of dipping my grilled cheese sandwich in ketchup. I'm v alpha
I spent my Valentine's by seeing Gretel and Hansel and then going to a Bernie rally I did call the gf when I got home and we watched Ash vs Evil Dead together
The Crush and I ended up getting drinks Friday night and going to play bingo at a gay bar hosting a drag show. What a hilarious and great 5 hours that was. Won a bottle of disturbingly bright blue vodka on the last game and then we made out in a dirty alley while it started to snow. She’s pretty great, which sucks. Super goddamn cliche. I’ve stumbled into a fucking Netflix original here.
Went to a musuem with a friend to do a school scavenger hunt assignment, met two folks who were also doing the same assignment, and once we were done, one of the girls asked if I wanted to grab a drink. I talked with her for a few hours and we're going on a follow up lunch date today. Crazy how things just fall into place like that.
I’m fucking depressed. Just got a bottle of whiskey and I have like an eighth of weed left. Called out of work and just gonna drown in my sorrows tonight. Idk what else to do.
Hey man I really appreciate thqt. I’m going through something and it means something to me that someone gives a fuck.
Yeah man, i definitely give a fuck. Hit my DM's up for real if you wanna talk. No judgement comin' from me ever, haha.
Still hanging with this guy. Like him a lot but idk how to approach it without being insulting but like .... I wish he put more effort into his style. Like he's cute but wears PJs a lot during the day and doesn't rly have a skin or hair routine and I sound shallow af lol. But like his shirts are stretched out and faded and have like Rick and Morty on them. I feel like it bums me out cause the lack of effort seems correlated to depression or lack of self esteem issues so next weekend I'm gonna watch Queer Eye with him and see see if it ~inspires cause he's never seen it. I don't want to change him but like I want him to feel the self worth to make positive changes without me feeling like I'm insulting him idk I'm sick and had a beer.
Y’all should go shopping and just have him try on stuff. Not pushy to buy and don’t call out his “style” but more like a what does this look like on you type thing. Sometimes just seeing a nice outfit on you just makes you feel better about yourself and more open to trying. I definitely don’t put a ton of work into my style other than trying not to look terrible. But when I dress up for work or for certain occasions it’s hard not to feel good about myself. And it makes me want to do it more. But then I realize I live in south Texas and if I wear anything other than shorts and a basic tee at all times I become miserable and hot and sweaty.
I mean at this point he has to know that's important to you and I don't know if there's a nice way to frame it that you know the standards for women vs men is traditionally super fucked, I feel like there's a nice way to say it like you think he can do better
It’s super tough. I know if my girlfriend directly said to me that I kinda dress like a slob (true for most occasions) it would’ve hurt my feelings pretty bad. However, she runs a clothing store and I was like “I need pants and help” and the floodgates opened. I agree with seeing if he’s open to just looking/trying on clothes. I hated it forever — had a meltdown in front of my girlfriend over a dress shirt not fitting me right in August — but she makes it super low stress, though it helps that it is basically her job. edit: I think the key is deciphering why he dresses the way he does. If it’s an effort thing, that can be changed. If it is a depression thing or a self esteem thing, that is trickier.