But for real I can't tell if I have legit issues with these guys or if I'm looking for issues. Like Reagan is obv an issue, tho personality-wise and chemistry-wise he's probably been my favorite which.... Yikes. One guy likes the joker too much and is a bad kisser, one is great on paper but I'm not feeling it in person, one I haven't met yet but I'm already like idk idk, and now I'm complaining that this guy I'm messaging is TOO functional lmao
Understandable. I've just never experienced that myself. Living away from my family is ideal in my book and never gotten attached to anywhere I've lived. Even now, despite loving the Bay Area, if the right opportunity popped up I'd move at the drop of a pin.
It kind of sounds like maybe you're just too guarded and maybe worried what someone using a dating app is hiding. Which is all totally fair. Or maybe the dating pool where you're at is too limited for what you truly want out of a potential partner.
Okay I figured it out. It's not "fetishization" necessarily but being put on a pedestal. It's like some Idol Worship by Paramore nonsense. But maybe in person it'll be less weird? I'm willing to give it a shot but I'm skeptical
it’s weird because my family were the ones that pushed me to move out but now they all constantly miss me and I’m just like meh but I still love hanging with them. I just love Fresno because it’s perfect distance from everything I love in la and the bay.
how long have you been talking to him? I’m assuming y’all haven’t met yet and he already seems really needy haha
Oh I totally feel that. It was the same way with my family, the second I was out of the house they couldn't stop trying to have dinner and whatnot with me. The perfect distance? Like 2 hours from the Bay and 6 hours from LA seems a bit much, but maybe that's just because I hate driving.
yeah so I have friends in la and I have friends in the bay that I love to visit so it’s nice to take a weekend off and be a tourist in those towns and then go back to the comfort of my not small small town.
Girl this is exactly what I was trying to describe that one day via text I feel like using dating apps SO many people put you IMMEDIATELY on a pedastal. And I’m ALWAYS like bitch u don’t know me!!! Like every time they say something sweet I’m like ...that’s nice and all but means nothing because we’ve been texting for all of a day...
I’ve been on tinder like 10 days and I’ve gotten no matches so I consider this a failure and I hate Fresno.
Doesn't sound too bad when you talk about it like that. Still six hours of driving is more than I'd take up to visit somewhere haha.