somethingliketj's Recent Activity
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somethingliketj liked Paulms85's post in the thread Accountability in Music II.
Likely the only opportunity to post this here.
Jul 21, 2025 at 5:47 AM
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somethingliketj liked myawrld's post in the thread Accountability in Music [ARCHIVED].
I would also like to add that these conversations are intended to be mutually beneficial. It being in the accountability thread is well suited because it is something we all need to be and can always be more. I am not a fan of dogpile mentality especially when the person listens and is accountable in return. I don’t need someone to be eternally sorry - I just need equal voice for a smaller population who is incredibly marginalized. My calling out the comments had less to do with who posted it or their reputation and everything to do with how it comes across to a member (or visitor) of this community as words on a screen. I have been on multiple iterations of this website, through multiple user profiles (a very trans experience lol) since I was a kid and have shared intimate details of my life to contribute to a conversation we are all having together- so I am also a valuable member to this site. There are other valuable members who have been open with who they are and likely others who aren’t, or don’t know that could be made to feel unwelcome by a casual comment - my speaking loudly is for them.
Jul 21, 2025 at 5:46 AM -
somethingliketj liked myawrld's post in the thread Accountability in Music [ARCHIVED].
Speaking generally not directly, I think it’s important to reconsider how we are talking to the LGBTQIA+ community at a time where collectively we are incredibly vulnerable. We have degraded as a society into a debate club where people feel emboldened to share their take on everything. For me that triggers a reaction because I see where people feel entitled to weigh in, or try and tell me how the community should react and I think that’s also total bullshit. In a time where we are *all* under daily attack and threat while just trying to live our lives peacefully we need to be listening more to each other. I don’t think it’s necessary to rip up what I’m saying as a transgender person in a time that’s scarier and more invasive than I’ve ever lived. I’ve come home every day to headlines of my rights and access to health care being taken away, and gone online to see the discourse become so disgusting and hateful about my community. Logging off doesn’t solve that, I can’t travel as I risk being arrested at the airport for using the bathroom or my passport being revoked if I leave the country. It makes a person feel very backed into a corner as I’m sure you could imagine and being brushed off and having a cis person be given deference really adds insult to preexisting injury . So, Unless you know how that anguish that daily hell feels like, the pit in your stomach when you see a transgender person in the headlines because you know what happens next, I just ask that people listen to us. That is the most important part of being an ally in 2025. I am not someone who takes joy in this kind of exchange but I’m someone who has a voice they will use because I know many are rightfully terrified to right now.
Jul 21, 2025 at 5:44 AM -
somethingliketj liked Aaron Mook's post in the thread Accountability in Music [ARCHIVED].
Definitely understand posts like the one above while also wanting to reiterate that regular posters know that @iCarly Rae Jepsen of all people definitely did not mean for their post to read the way it has to some folks. Not trying to minimize any emotions, just feel like anyone unfamiliar should know that Ian is a really valuable and well-intentioned poster on this site.
Jul 18, 2025 at 12:21 PM